Life is home to many mysteries but if there’s one thing I know to be true, it’s that Kanye West loves himself. Yeezy is notorious for his unusually large ego but what if I told you we could all learn a thing or two about self-love and acceptance from him if we just took a leaf out of his book. Kanye has become something of a novelty and someone that shouldn’t be taken seriously.
It’s easy to dismiss Kanye as an egotistic nonsense spouter, especially when we’re constantly bombarded with articles completely discrediting him and labeling him a madman, but a lot of the time Kanye actually makes a good point. We’ve been thinking of Kanye West as the Donald Trump of music, except I personally believe that we’d be a lot better off with Yeezy as leader of the free world than Donald Trump.
Say what you will about him. The man speaks his mind in an era where celebrities are trained to spit out some top class BS whenever they speak. I think it’s important to have that person you know is always going to speak up for what he believes in, even if it is himself. But a lot of the time his comments are deeper than that, he speaks on socio-political issues, race issues, culture, fashion politics though a rare unfiltered lens.
I have learned so much from Kanye about self-love and body positivity, something that a lot of us are struggling with in our consumerist society that tells us that material possessions will give us happiness and satisfaction, but in Kanye just being Kanye, he reminds us that happiness comes from simply loving ourselves in spite of everything.
Kanye on Being Humble
Being humble is something that’s strongly endorsed in our culture and is one of the main reasons Kanye’s self-love gets under so many people’s skin.
“People always tell you be humble. Be humble! When’s the last time someone told you be great? Be amazing? Be awesome! Be awesome!”
I used to think that loving yourself was essentially the same as being arrogant, but I’ve come to learn that there’s a very fine line between the two. If someone does something exceptionally well, they’re encouraged to act like it isn’t a big deal in an effort to “stay humble” but there is a way you can still love yourself and remain a nice grounded person. While being humble is important, being able to say you’re the amazing is equally important. We’re often too afraid of other people labelling us arrogant or egotistical to even let the smallest bit of self-praise out. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging that you did something great and it’s okay to celebrate your own success. Sometimes we hold ourselves back when we’re too worried about what people are going to think and supressing these feelings or feeling guilty about them is usually what leads to a damaged self-esteem. People say believe in yourself but not too much or you’ll look arrogant, or love yourself but not too much because you don’t want to look conceited, but Kanye says whatevs to the haters:
“I’m totally weird, and I’m totally honest, and I’m totally inappropriate sometimes. And the thing is, for me to say I wasn’t a genius, I would just be lying to you and to myself.”
The next time you do something you’re proud of, do yourself a favour and enjoy it! Because you know what? You’re the sh*t and you’re allowed to say that, your self-esteem will love you for it.
Kanye on Society and Self Esteem
There’s a huge self-esteem deficiency in our society and this is partly because of our capitalist society that can’t survive if we’re not always hungry for things we don’t have. Every day we watch an array of ads telling us what’s wrong with us and how we can easily fix it if we just empty our pockets and buy the product. It used to be completely normal for Women to leave their armpit hair full and luscious until Gillette decided they’d sold all they could to men and needed another target to maximise profits (google it).
I refuse to follow those rules that society has set up and the way they control people with low self-esteem, with improper information, with branding, with marketing. I refuse to follow those rules.
Our society thrives on keeping us unhappy and it’s up to us to recognise this when we see it and say I’m alright thanks, I’m too busy being my fabulous self to submit to your corporate machine. One of the other reasons the media is so eager to push Kanye down is that self-love is contagious and I find it a little suspicious that the only popular figure that practices self-love so liberally is labelled a narcissistic asshole that we shouldn’t take seriously…
Kanye on Being Unapologetically Yourself.
“When someone comes up and says something like, ‘I am a god,’ everybody says, ‘Who does he think he is?’ I just told you who I thought I was! A god! …. That’s who I think I am. Would it have been better if I had a song that said, ‘I am a n***a? Or if I had a song that said, ‘I am a gangster’? Or if I had a song that said, ‘I am a pimp’? All those colours and patinas fit better on a person like me, right? But to say you are a god, especially when you got shipped over to the country that you’re in, and your last name is a slave owner’s. How could you say that? How could you have that mentality?
Something Kanye does really well is be himself. But being yourself is becoming increasingly harder in the world we live in. Just Google Kanye West rants and you’ll see an overabundance of articles that dismiss some pretty insightful comments and this is just one of the ways the media work to discredit Kanye. Obviously Kanye West doesn’t always get it right but then again who does? The only difference is when Kanye gets it wrong 50+ articles spring up about how much of a bad person he is, assassinating his character. It’s Kanye’s power to keep believing in himself, despite what everybody says, and despite this constant criticism and despite being labelled a megalomaniac that we can learn from. To be unapologetically yourself in a world that’s constantly telling you not to. Kanye’s self- love is a political act that still manages to stand after surviving a constant barrage of critics. It’s his ability to say “So you’re going to love me or you’re going to hate me, but I’m going to be me,”” that’s powerful.
Kanye on Following Your Dreams
The biggest obstacle when following your dreams is yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
I always feel like I can do anything. That’s the main thing people are controlled by. They’re slowed down by the perception of themselves. I was taught I could do everything. And I’m Kanye West at age 36.
Your perception of yourself is a big deal, the smallest insecurity can have a butterfly effect and lead to missed opportunities. At the end of the day, all that matters is what you think of yourself.
What if arrogance is love is in purest form? I mean there is no love that’s purer than self-love. We’re our own worst critics and yet we are still able to accept ourselves despite knowing every bad thing we’ve ever done and despite knowing all our flaws and our weaknesses. It’s a powerful thing to know how low you can be and still rise up against all odds and say “You know what? I can do this.”
Hopefully at the end of this I’ve left you feeling a lot better about yourself, or at least given you something to think about. You have your whole life to accomplish great things but it all starts with you and how you feel about yourself, not about what anybody else thinks and remember:
- Love yourself like Kanye loves himself
- Believe in yourself like Kanye believe in himself
- Know you’re the sh*t like Kanye knows he’s the sh*t